1. The bride had pre-wedding jitters.
If the future Mrs. has cold feet, the couple’s risk of divorce more than doubles, according to a study published in the Journal of Family Psychology. The good news? A groom with “I do” doubts has almost no impact on the future of the marriage.
2. The couple got married young — or after age 32.
Sure, conventional wisdom holds that getting married too early isn’t the best bet for a lasting union. “I often see couples in their 40s in counseling who got married too young and didn’t have experience with other partners or want different things now,” says Rachel Sussman, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. “Because there’s a very good chance that in 10 or 15 years, you’re going to be a very different person — and you should be.”
But a new study says that after age 32, a couple’s risk of divorce increases by 5% each year they wait to wed. Sussman attributes this to entrenched independence and a need for space.
3. A family has two daughters.
Sadly, it ups your chances to 43%. And even just having one daughter makes you 5% more likely to split, according to Columbia University economist Kristin Mammen. Parents with two sons, in contrast, face a nearly 37% risk. “We think it happens because fathers get more invested in family life when they have boys,” Stephanie Coontz, author of Marriage, a Historyand director of research for the Council on Contemporary Families, told The Daily Beast.
4. Divorce runs in the family, so to speak.
If your parents divorced, you’re at least 40% more likely to do the same. But if they got remarried, you have a staggering 91% likelihood of getting divorced.
5. A challenging child challenges a marriage.
Parents who deal with a child’s ADHD diagnosis are nearly 23% more likely to divorce before the child turns 8.
Money woes are an obvious marital stressor. Not only do many divorce risk factors correlate to poverty, but marital happiness dramatically decreases as couples don’t pay off their debts or take on new ones. And when one person is the big spender, according to one study, divorce can be 45% more likely. (Only extramarital affairs and substance abuse were stronger predictors!)
“There can be a problem when one partner works or just has a significantly bigger salary, and the other spends an exorbitant amount of money. Fighting over the Amex bill every month is just a dumb fight to have. They’ve got to be on the same page, and I think setting a budget is key,” explains Sussman.
7. The groom frowned in his childhood snapshots.
In two separate studies, psychologists evaluated peoples’ childhood and yearbook photos and then evaluated their current marital health. Their findings? People who frown in photos are five times more likely to divorce than people who smile. (Yes, this one’s especially, well, far-fetched.)
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